Happy New Year! It’s so awesome to see so many people I follow off to a great start this year with their hustle. That’s why I love this time of year. So inspiring!
I shared my goals last week and I’ve been working extra hard since then to work out my plan. But while I’m working on it, I’ve realized that there are some personality traits and mental blocks I’ve developed that are standing in the way of my potential success. I sat down to do some writing on the topic and it eventually turned into the blog post you see here.
These things do stand in my way and I have been aware of it for quite some time, but I never really dealt with it. With the new year it’s the perfect time to tackle each one of them so I can reach my goals. So I’ve listed out all of my mental blocks and how I’m working to overcome each one of them. I’m also guessing that as a human, you probably struggle with at least one of these things, so maybe this can help you too.
So grab your coffee or tea (I drink neither one of those, so maybe some wine for me?) and let’s chat!
Self-doubt & fear
I deal with self-doubt pretty often, and I have an underlying fear of success that shows its ugly head when I start to do well. One important thing I’m learning is that my life becomes what I think about the most. So if I’m always negative and self-doubting, then that will reflect in my life.
I’ve never been a big fan of wishy washy business and self-help advice, but “manifesting” success and happiness is a real thing. It makes sense because if you stop doubting yourself, you make space in your brain to think of all the ways you can make it happen, as opposed to all the reasons why you can’t.
This is my biggest struggle. I analyze and plan and rethink everything until it makes me sick. I’m not sure why I do it. Maybe it has to do with my growing fear of failure and being stuck.
All of the advice I’ve read tells me to “just do it” because you can always make improvements and changes later on. This is great advice, but it’s easier said than done for someone with a pretty bad case of AP. Maybe the solution lies in setting firm deadlines for when you MUST make a decision or get something done.
Procrastination is another big problem I’m dealing with. There are things that come up that I just don’t feel like dealing with at the time, so I put them off until later. That’s fine and all, but when you work for yourself or when you’re trying to reach a goal, you can’t always just put things off or you’ll never get things done.
I’m working on putting a system in place to help me with this that includes automation, calendars, checklists, and reminders.
Waiting until things are perfect before moving forward has never worked for me. The project I’m working on never moves forward and it also never reaches the perfection I was aiming for. I end up constantly making changes because I’m always chasing that unattainable perfection.
The quote “Done is better than perfect” is so true, and such a great reminder to just get shit done.
Most of the successful online entrepreneurs I follow say that in the beginning they took some time, whether it was weeks, months, or years, to read tons of articles and soak up everything they could about their industry.
In today’s information age, there is no reason to lack the basic knowledge and skills you need to be successful, when you can so easily find a solution online.
Everyone says that comparison is the thief of joy, and I agree. In my opinion, it’s also the thief of success. There are still times when I spend way too much time thinking about what other people are doing and whether or not my success is on the same level as theirs. I’m learning to appreciate what I have, even if it’s not as much or as “good” as what somebody else has.
Shyness & Introversion
I don’t think it’s possible to be successful in blogging or business if you can’t get a grip on being shy and introverted, because these industries are all about socializing and networking with people. I think it’s ok to be shy or introverted, but I’ve discovered that there are ways to work with these and maybe even work them into your brand.
By the way, did you know that “introvertedness” isn’t a real word? I didn’t even realize it until I wrote this! 🙂
Imitating someone else goes right along with comparison. It’s such a common reason we fail, because we aren’t being true to ourselves and we try to just do what we see everyone else doing. It’s not that I want to copy specifically what other people are doing (like content or design), but more that I want to mimic their success.
It’s totally fine to be inspired by other people’s success, but it’s important to know that you can never imitate it. Once I defined my own version of success, I realized that I had to take my own path to get there, and that mimicking other people’s success won’t ever take me to where I want to be.
Caring too much about what other people think
This is also related to perfection. Yes, blogging and business are about people and you should care about what people think, need, and want when you’re creating content, products, and services. BUT, there is such a thing as caring too much, to the point where you try to please everyone.
Something I’m learning more and more as I continue my journey is that I can’t please everyone. Not only is it impossible, but it’s also exhausting and at the end of the day it just doesn’t work. Some people won’t “get” me, no matter what I do. It’s hard for me accept, because I want to be adored by people, but I’m learning to be ok with that.
What are some mental blocks you struggle with? How are you planning to tackle them in 2016?